If you’re not very successful at dealing with people, you haven’t had the chance to properly educate yourself. Learning to deal with people is like learning to walk except it requires a lot more work!
Now imagine if your whole life you had been taught to walk backwards. Would this make your life much more difficult? Of course it would. Just like anything else, you need to learn exactly how to interact with people the proper way.
Here are few habits that you should always strive to improve when interacting with people:
Face your fears
It is a bad habit to give way to our fears, especially in meeting new people.
Actually, fear relates to all aspects of your life, career promotions, meeting people, new opportunities, etc. If you need to do something logical but your emotions are getting in the way, then you need to analyze the situation and use some common sense.
It is a bad habit to shy away to people we don’t know. Since the day you were born, your parents have taught you to never speak to strangers. Well, you’re a grown up now and things have changed. In order to develop exceptional people skills you need to be comfortable speaking to all types of people. You need to meet as many people as you can.
Make a good first impression
Did you know that people will judge almost everything about you just by your first impression? Make an initial effort to get along with the person you are meeting and you’ll save yourself a lot of trouble in the future.
Shake hands warmly
Shake hands with enthusiasm and look in the eye as you press the other person’s hand.
Smile when in conversation
Frowning and not smiling enough. No one likes to spend time with someone who’s in a bad mood. If you’re not feeling too great then try to keep your distance. People love to spend time with upbeat, optimistic people. Make an effort to smile, not frown.
Make an effort to speak well
In order to develop great people skills you need to become a great conversationalist. This doesn’t mean you need to speak a lot; this means you need to speak well. You need to articulate and choose your words wisely. Basically, you need to listen to what you’re saying and not just blabber on about whatever you feel like.
Talk and look straight to the eye
When you are in a personal conversation, look at them straight to the eye. Don’t look the other way when speaking to someone. You must have the habit to look at someone directly in their eyes when speaking to them. If you were taught that staring at people was impolite, you’re absolutely right. However, this does not mean you can’t look at someone in his or her eyes.
Stand and sit straight
Whenever you are in conversation, you have to stand or sit straight. Standing or sitting straight makes you look taller. It will give you more confident as well while in conversation. On the other hand, whenever you slouch, you look small.
Be a good listener
Have you ever noticed how you tend to fall into a mind drift as soon as the other person begins to speak? Okay, well if you really don’t care about the person, then fine. But if you do, make an effort to listen and let the person speak. It will only help you further on in the conversation.
Be open minded
There are all kinds of people out there. There are different religions, different races, different cultures, and different languages. Learn to accept others for who they are not who you want them to be. Give them your full respect and work out your differences unless of course you aren’t receiving the respect you deserve.
When there is not enough action and things are looking dull, it’s up to you to make a move. If you aren’t satisfied with the current situation don’t blame others, do something about it!
Enjoy the social life
If you want people to enjoy your company, you need to let them know that you’re a fun person to spend time with. If you’re a hard worker, then I congratulate you! However, you need to occasionally go out and be known for your excellent nights out! Go out and live your life to the fullest!
Stay in touch
To make sure you have the best relationships with all of the people you know, you must stay in touch with them. You need to regularly check your contact list and remind them all that you still exist. I’m not saying to call them up twice a week but an occasional check is always nice.
Develop these things if you really want to have exceptional skills in dealing with people.